I watched a talk show made by my friends. And I'm displeased that I did not become their guest for that episode. But as a competent lad, I will not let myself be a loser of that show, so I will going to answer some of the questions being asked there. I only said, "some" because, I can't answer all of the questions there. So just some. I just hoped that I would be one of the guests in their next show. So, here are the questions.
How do I like to be remembered?
I like to be remembered by my arts of course. My arts, because it is my passion. Also, I like to be remembered as a friend because I feel hurt when I was forgotten by my friends. Well, I send my friends and communicate with them using my artworks usually. I usually draw them. The frequency that I drew them is depending on how I think about them. So, every time I remember them, I always feel motivated to draw them. When it comes to you, remembering me, I always like to be remembered always, the same way I always remembered you. It is the sign that you loved and accepted me. The same way God always remembered me. Also, as an autistic person, I also like to be remembered in my autism because I wanted to be accepted by people that I want to befriend since I'm always bullied in school constantly in my high school years. So, in summary, I like to be remembered through my arts, personality, love and acceptance.
Differentiate right and good.
Right and good can be the same but also can be different. It's obvious though. The word "right" is usually used in knowledge or in mind, but the word "good" is used mostly in deeds. For example. I expressed my thoughts in the right way, so the way it was read is good. Another example was that the boy made the right decision, not a wrong one, so he became a good boy. Imagine if you walk from Jerusalem to Jericho, then you saw a weak man being badly beaten, what are you going to do? Then you decided to do the right thing which is to help him. So you did it and you became a good example for all men. That was the difference between right and good.
What are my thoughts about victim-blaming?
I have mixed feedback on this topic, it depends on a situation by the way.
In my country Philippines, there is a trend where they say that rape victims have been blamed on what happened to them. Without searching it on Google, I always remember that they are blamed because of what they are wearing. Well, what are they? Always, those modern and contemporary articles of clothing that show most of the skin. Well, I want to mention it but I rather not. It all started when the police forces gave advises to women what must be done in order to avoid rape. They discouraged wearing skimpy clothes, and afterwards many became mad. They say that it is not the clothing but the lust of men in which I can agree. But the question is what triggers the man to get aroused? Isn't it the naked body of a girl? Well, I admit that I always fall for it but I have to tell you, that there are men that are strong enough to hold on to their lust to prevent the crime. Mostly, the rapist is more on being a drunk or an addict in which they have absolutely no control over their hormones. So they just rape random person, boy or girl, fully clothed or sexy clothed. They just do it randomly because they have no control over their hormones. I technically do not blame the clothing, but rather I have to blame the controllessness or the weakness of staying away from the temptation. Well, you say that indigenous people are almost naked but they are not being raped. What I say about it was that it is part of their culture. They are almost naked throughout their lifetime, they see naked people all the time from infancy to autumn years, so there's no malice in them. The problem is that we live in the urban area where we always clothe ourselves making the situation of seeing a naked girl a shock that triggers lust. That's why there is an advisory like that from the police.
Now, I'm also displeased on how men are being forced to control their lust but the girls having no control over what they wear. It's not feminism anymore. I called it "Feminazism" because girls are trying to be superior over men and wanting to enslave them with very much restrictions while girls enjoyed life without restriction. That's 100% unfair. I imagined that situation in which I don't want to live in that, girls belittling men because they can't control their lust. I want equality because we are humans and in God's eyes we are equal. I'm not in favour when serving justice is more responsive to women-victims rather than men it needs to be equal because boys can also be victims of rape, it most likely happens in prison.
Also, being modest or decent is not being fully clothed. It's rather wearing with respect for yourselves. Remember, in order for you to be respected you have to respect yourself first. They say, they only wearing for themselves, So you're not wearing it for God?
Now, another situation is that I was very displeased on blaming the victims of BULLYING. When I was watching with my dad about a certain bully-victim who had died because of it, he said that in order for it to not happen to me, I just ignore them. I was technically displeased by that because, as a guy with autism, I always want to scold those bullies because I'm a very touchy lad, taking jokes seriously because they are insulting and easily angered. So, I say to him "So, you're blaming the victim that he died because it was his fault that he always scold them?". Bullying is wrong, so it has to be stopped and it needs to be stopped immediately. Can bullying be stopped by simply ignoring them? Of course, it will take a very long time. And when it will be stopped? When it's too late that the victim died due to bullying? Well, the victim cannot see that the bullying stopped for he died. So it needs to be stopped IMMEDIATELY.
So, in summary, I have mixed thoughts on victim-blaming. Depending on the situation, but I really encourage to stop victim-blaming, they became victims and yet, you want to scold them and teach them a lesson? It will only make matters worse. Victim-blaming is the reason why victims can't shout for justice, this is the reason why they keep matters for themselves until it explodes killing them. It needs to be stopped.
So, here are my answers to the questions of my friends, and I will answer more of your questions when I became your guest on your show. I hope you learn a lot about my opinions and please. Do not judge my views on victim-blaming, I do a lot of research and case study about that topic. Well, that's all. Thank you!
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